Surround yourself with a support network that’s going to help you like yourself more. Find friends who really want you to succeed and understand the difficulties you face. Talk to people who appreciate that every good decision, good meal, good day is cause for congratulation!
Learn to like yourself
Feeling good about ourselves is a vital ingredient of permanent success. The ‘feel-good factor’, that fashionable phrase, has started to mean something someone else does for us, or someone else gives to us. But I don’t mean this at all. ‘Feeling good’ is not dependent on someone else. You don’t need someone to ‘give’ it to you. You can choose to have it.
Accepting that we can choose how we feel is a concept most of us find quite foreign. We tend to say things like ‘he made me feel bad’ or ‘you make me happy’ and as well as saying it, we believe it and live our lives accordingly. We become an emotional thermometer, allowing our feelings to be turned up or down by someone else. But we can actually be a thermostat not a thermometer. We can regulate how we feel, not go up and down according to how someone else feels.
I once read a memorable story about two commuters. Each day on their way to work they walked past a newspaper seller on the street corner. Each morning, one of the commuters always had a cheery word of greeting for the news-seller and every time the news-seller gave a grumpy response. One day, his companion asked why he continued to be pleasant to such a miserable fellow and why, after having his greeting thrown back in his face, did he continue his journey so cheerfully. ‘Oh, that’s quite simple,’ replied the man. ‘I like to choose my own mood, not let someone else choose it for me.’
Being a thermostat!
We really can and do choose how we feel. Others can only invite us to feel a certain way. The glorious revelation is that we don’t have to accept the invitation! Understand this and you’ll feel and be more in control of your own destiny.
Next time you’re feeling down, or blaming yourself for not losing weight, tell yourself that no-one finds losing weight easy and that it’s understandable that you sometimes stumble and fall. Tell yourself no-one is perfect. And your imperfections go along with the other stuff that make up this wonderful, perfectly imperfect person.
Feel good about yourself and give yourself the best chance of success – at whatever it is you decide to achieve.
Don’t be bullied – do it for you!
You have to decide whether your weight matters to you enough to make the necessary changes. Do not be pushed into doing this by someone else. Beware the bullies in friendly disguise! Choose what’s right for you and do it for the right reasons. Check your expectations. Realistically, the things that will happen are a change in your looks, your health and your confidence and those good feelings about yourself will be deeply reinforced. Personally, I think it’s the most marvellous feeling in the world.
If you’ve been burdened with a weight problem, then I promise that nothing tastes as good as being slim feels!
Sandra
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